I’m not saying it’s wrong to do these things i’m just saying that kissing may not be something that one person can’t handle. Say for ex. maybe kissing someone causes that person to want to have *** then maybe kissing may not be a good idea b4 u 2 get married. Purity i believe is a heart issue..the heart is powerful and it shows in your actions and your words. So i believe that as a couple u should communicate to your partner what u can and cannot do so that u can help each other not fall.
JinXuanJun on
August 14th, 2009
hey, its all good
JinXuanJun on
August 17th, 2009
what is the reason why couples should not do the hugging, kissing, holding hands? to me, that sounds ridiculous? i know there are plenty of other ways to prove your love, but i see that all the time at my church and they are well respected couples. Im not ranting btw , i just want to hear a reasonable answer. thank you
ucanteach2 on
August 18th, 2009
I have recently met my mate.But I had to get over looking at the outwards appearance for my mate.I am a black woman who is going to marry a white man.I wanted to be with a black man but it didn’t turn out that way.
ucanteach2 on
August 19th, 2009
God has a way of bringing the right individual into your life.Wait on the Lord,believe me you will know when the right person has come along.God will let you both know without a doubt that this is the one.CHILL!
datruefashiondiva on
August 20th, 2009
Well one thing that i have learned is that as ppl of God the only voice that we need to be hearing is that from God. When God tells you something this person is the one I have for u unless God says tell them this then u don’t say anything. You keep it between u and God and hold on to the promise that he has given you. In a relationship u both need to set some ground rules as far as what u will and willl not do in the relationship(ex. hugging, kissing) hear from God!
laura686979 on
August 22nd, 2009
GOD TOLD ME YOUR MY HUSBAND is totally MANIPULATIVE and CONTROLLING. god does NOT work like that. women and men who do that need to repent. manipulation is as the sin of witchcraft its not godly. if you like a woman-Man you approach them in humility and let the relationship grow in honestly and respect…women donlt manupulate and men donlt manipulate.. wait on jesus and get to know the mans character.. god bless you brother
faithful4 on
August 22nd, 2009
Yes, that where I am right now. I don’t know if I really want to be married, as much as date to be dating. The true loneliness I feel is the truly, what you said, the void of not putting Christ first. And that’s it. Thank you for that.
briannadavis07 on
August 24th, 2009
Christian dating can be difficult and easy at the same time. If both of you have your eyes set on Christ and his perfect will, then your path is set, but at the same time it can be more difficult because when your relationship with Christ is at its strongest, Satan tends to strike with abounding temptations. There’s also the pressure of your church. Everybody is going to have something to say about your relationship. But if you are in the center of God’s will, then you can’t go wrong!
xaveelala on
August 27th, 2009
dude your awesome!!!
your message comes through really well!
luxaurum on
August 27th, 2009
In 80+% of all relationships I have known, Christian or non Christian, there is one person who feels more attached than the other. That’s why you see the “drama”..as that person wants the other person to reciprocate the closeness and then becomes frustrated when the other does not. It’s a mystery, especially if the other stands out such as clergy or musician. If that person is you, the relationship is poison. In real relationships you are loved for being your true self, are best friends…
HolyLivin on
August 28th, 2009
I have seen what you mentioned in the video. What I found is that people don’t date for marriage they date to TRY to fill a void that should first be filled by having a TRUE relationship with CHRIST. Through a relationship with Christ and obedience to his WORD and WILL for our lives, we will be delivered of all of the world’s concept of dating(and thinking) as he shape and mold us to be like him. We have to work on getting ourself together 1st. Godliness with contentment is a great gain. Thanks
kevangel99 on
September 1st, 2009
For this reason will a man leave his father and his mother and be united to his wife and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)
IlSoffione on
September 4th, 2009
Seriously…are you a minister? and if so what kind of church is it? I find this fascinating and I would like to know more about you.
agydo on
September 4th, 2009
why a lot of women like the bad,ugly and non disciplined guys,seem to not care about qualitties
what do you think guys about that??????
MarkPatriots on
September 6th, 2009
Completely false. I don’t even have to NOT be saved to know that. Generations of marriages have succeeded among non-Christians. I’ve seen non-Christian couples flourish more than Christian couples. As Christians, conflicting standards still exist.
reynandvalenzuela on
September 8th, 2009
dating as a Christian is easier because both people have a common standard, Christ’s.
as non-Christians, there are 2 conflicting standards.
deborahdaughter7 on
September 9th, 2009
Keep it real. As a single female minister I have dated guys in the church who only wanted me because they knew I was celibate and I would make a good wife. Both of them told me God told them I was their wife. Try the spirit by the spirit. Waiting on God is a hard thing for people to do because they have not allowed Christ to be their wife or husband. Human emotions are just as evident in the church. After all I love Jesus but I am not Jesus. It is harder than it looks.
freenunfetteredmatt6 on
September 9th, 2009
Thanks Reid for the heartfelt question. A good friend of mine had a “God told me..” scenario and the relationship disintegrated, badly I believe. There are, sadly, some people IN the church who use their gifts to manipulate the hearts of others. But we should realize that Satan goes to church too: he was the head worship leader in the presence of God in heaven according to Ezekiel and in Job he was among the angels who assembled in the presence of God, to mention a few scriptures.
freenunfetteredmatt6 on
September 11th, 2009
I really don’t think it’s fair for someone to come up to you and immediately say “God told me that you’re my husband (or wife).” You’re immediately put at a disadvantage cuz you haven’t had time to test their spirit. Besides, I sincerely believe God would tell BOTH parties involved. He’s not the author of confusion but of peace. Finally, communication is key to having a successful relationship of any kind, especially a romantic one. Dr. Myles Munroe has a great bk Waiting and Dating
reeelsexy01 on
September 11th, 2009
I believe that it is harder to approach the dating arena as a christian, because of the worldly influences. Especially, if you were once practicing worldly way’s. I believe speaking from a woman’s point of view, the worldly temptations are so strong. At times these worldly temptations may be hard to resist. To me worldly temptations are like drugs. As a christian you don’t want to relapse back into those worldly ways. So as a christian women, I approach dating with caution.
davieschristiangirl on
September 11th, 2009
I was married for 21 yrs and my ex walked away from God and is not living for Christ. So, divorce was thrust upon me so I am coming at it from a different point of view. But, I have to be honest I am surprised at the lack of holiness with “Christian” men. It is like you said it doesn’t matter who they are..worship leaders etc. I think the reality is people think God forgives all and can live like an unbeliever.. I don’t want anyone like that and I think we need to live what we believe.
This is absolutely true, wonderfully said.
Amen to that
I’m not saying it’s wrong to do these things i’m just saying that kissing may not be something that one person can’t handle. Say for ex. maybe kissing someone causes that person to want to have *** then maybe kissing may not be a good idea b4 u 2 get married. Purity i believe is a heart issue..the heart is powerful and it shows in your actions and your words. So i believe that as a couple u should communicate to your partner what u can and cannot do so that u can help each other not fall.
hey, its all good
what is the reason why couples should not do the hugging, kissing, holding hands? to me, that sounds ridiculous? i know there are plenty of other ways to prove your love, but i see that all the time at my church and they are well respected couples. Im not ranting btw
, i just want to hear a reasonable answer. thank you
I have recently met my mate.But I had to get over looking at the outwards appearance for my mate.I am a black woman who is going to marry a white man.I wanted to be with a black man but it didn’t turn out that way.
God has a way of bringing the right individual into your life.Wait on the Lord,believe me you will know when the right person has come along.God will let you both know without a doubt that this is the one.CHILL!
Well one thing that i have learned is that as ppl of God the only voice that we need to be hearing is that from God. When God tells you something this person is the one I have for u unless God says tell them this then u don’t say anything. You keep it between u and God and hold on to the promise that he has given you. In a relationship u both need to set some ground rules as far as what u will and willl not do in the relationship(ex. hugging, kissing) hear from God!
GOD TOLD ME YOUR MY HUSBAND is totally MANIPULATIVE and CONTROLLING. god does NOT work like that. women and men who do that need to repent. manipulation is as the sin of witchcraft its not godly. if you like a woman-Man you approach them in humility and let the relationship grow in honestly and respect…women donlt manupulate and men donlt manipulate.. wait on jesus and get to know the mans character.. god bless you brother
Yes, that where I am right now. I don’t know if I really want to be married, as much as date to be dating. The true loneliness I feel is the truly, what you said, the void of not putting Christ first. And that’s it. Thank you for that.
Christian dating can be difficult and easy at the same time. If both of you have your eyes set on Christ and his perfect will, then your path is set, but at the same time it can be more difficult because when your relationship with Christ is at its strongest, Satan tends to strike with abounding temptations. There’s also the pressure of your church. Everybody is going to have something to say about your relationship. But if you are in the center of God’s will, then you can’t go wrong!
dude your awesome!!!
your message comes through really well!
In 80+% of all relationships I have known, Christian or non Christian, there is one person who feels more attached than the other. That’s why you see the “drama”..as that person wants the other person to reciprocate the closeness and then becomes frustrated when the other does not. It’s a mystery, especially if the other stands out such as clergy or musician. If that person is you, the relationship is poison. In real relationships you are loved for being your true self, are best friends…
I have seen what you mentioned in the video. What I found is that people don’t date for marriage they date to TRY to fill a void that should first be filled by having a TRUE relationship with CHRIST. Through a relationship with Christ and obedience to his WORD and WILL for our lives, we will be delivered of all of the world’s concept of dating(and thinking) as he shape and mold us to be like him. We have to work on getting ourself together 1st. Godliness with contentment is a great gain. Thanks
For this reason will a man leave his father and his mother and be united to his wife and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)
Seriously…are you a minister? and if so what kind of church is it? I find this fascinating and I would like to know more about you.
why a lot of women like the bad,ugly and non disciplined guys,seem to not care about qualitties
what do you think guys about that??????
Completely false. I don’t even have to NOT be saved to know that. Generations of marriages have succeeded among non-Christians. I’ve seen non-Christian couples flourish more than Christian couples. As Christians, conflicting standards still exist.
dating as a Christian is easier because both people have a common standard, Christ’s.
as non-Christians, there are 2 conflicting standards.
Keep it real. As a single female minister I have dated guys in the church who only wanted me because they knew I was celibate and I would make a good wife. Both of them told me God told them I was their wife. Try the spirit by the spirit. Waiting on God is a hard thing for people to do because they have not allowed Christ to be their wife or husband. Human emotions are just as evident in the church. After all I love Jesus but I am not Jesus. It is harder than it looks.
Thanks Reid for the heartfelt question. A good friend of mine had a “God told me..” scenario and the relationship disintegrated, badly I believe. There are, sadly, some people IN the church who use their gifts to manipulate the hearts of others. But we should realize that Satan goes to church too: he was the head worship leader in the presence of God in heaven according to Ezekiel and in Job he was among the angels who assembled in the presence of God, to mention a few scriptures.
I really don’t think it’s fair for someone to come up to you and immediately say “God told me that you’re my husband (or wife).” You’re immediately put at a disadvantage cuz you haven’t had time to test their spirit. Besides, I sincerely believe God would tell BOTH parties involved. He’s not the author of confusion but of peace. Finally, communication is key to having a successful relationship of any kind, especially a romantic one. Dr. Myles Munroe has a great bk Waiting and Dating
I believe that it is harder to approach the dating arena as a christian, because of the worldly influences. Especially, if you were once practicing worldly way’s. I believe speaking from a woman’s point of view, the worldly temptations are so strong. At times these worldly temptations may be hard to resist. To me worldly temptations are like drugs. As a christian you don’t want to relapse back into those worldly ways. So as a christian women, I approach dating with caution.
I was married for 21 yrs and my ex walked away from God and is not living for Christ. So, divorce was thrust upon me so I am coming at it from a different point of view. But, I have to be honest I am surprised at the lack of holiness with “Christian” men. It is like you said it doesn’t matter who they are..worship leaders etc. I think the reality is people think God forgives all and can live like an unbeliever.. I don’t want anyone like that and I think we need to live what we believe.