Comments on: Dating as a christian

By: davieschristiangirl

davieschristiangirl — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 22:47:10 +0000

I was married for 21 yrs and my ex walked away from God and is not living for Christ. So, divorce was thrust upon me so I am coming at it from a different point of view. But, I have to be honest I am surprised at the lack of holiness with “Christian” men. It is like you said it doesn’t matter who they are..worship leaders etc. I think the reality is people think God forgives all and can live like an unbeliever.. I don’t want anyone like that and I think we need to live what we believe.

By: reeelsexy01

reeelsexy01 — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 19:41:34 +0000

I believe that it is harder to approach the dating arena as a christian, because of the worldly influences. Especially, if you were once practicing worldly way’s. I believe speaking from a woman’s point of view, the worldly temptations are so strong. At times these worldly temptations may be hard to resist. To me worldly temptations are like drugs. As a christian you don’t want to relapse back into those worldly ways. So as a christian women, I approach dating with caution.

By: freenunfetteredmatt6

freenunfetteredmatt6 — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 16:03:25 +0000

I really don’t think it’s fair for someone to come up to you and immediately say “God told me that you’re my husband (or wife).” You’re immediately put at a disadvantage cuz you haven’t had time to test their spirit. Besides, I sincerely believe God would tell BOTH parties involved. He’s not the author of confusion but of peace. Finally, communication is key to having a successful relationship of any kind, especially a romantic one. Dr. Myles Munroe has a great bk Waiting and Dating

By: freenunfetteredmatt6

freenunfetteredmatt6 — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 23:24:27 +0000

Thanks Reid for the heartfelt question. A good friend of mine had a “God told me..” scenario and the relationship disintegrated, badly I believe. There are, sadly, some people IN the church who use their gifts to manipulate the hearts of others. But we should realize that Satan goes to church too: he was the head worship leader in the presence of God in heaven according to Ezekiel and in Job he was among the angels who assembled in the presence of God, to mention a few scriptures.

By: deborahdaughter7

deborahdaughter7 — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 06:01:48 +0000

Keep it real. As a single female minister I have dated guys in the church who only wanted me because they knew I was celibate and I would make a good wife. Both of them told me God told them I was their wife. Try the spirit by the spirit. Waiting on God is a hard thing for people to do because they have not allowed Christ to be their wife or husband. Human emotions are just as evident in the church. After all I love Jesus but I am not Jesus. It is harder than it looks.

By: reynandvalenzuela

reynandvalenzuela — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 07:35:11 +0000

dating as a Christian is easier because both people have a common standard, Christ’s.

as non-Christians, there are 2 conflicting standards.

By: MarkPatriots

MarkPatriots — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 14:28:31 +0000

Completely false. I don’t even have to NOT be saved to know that. Generations of marriages have succeeded among non-Christians. I’ve seen non-Christian couples flourish more than Christian couples. As Christians, conflicting standards still exist.

By: agydo

agydo — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 15:10:30 +0000

why a lot of women like the bad,ugly and non disciplined guys,seem to not care about qualitties
what do you think guys about that??????

By: IlSoffione

IlSoffione — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 08:05:51 +0000

Seriously…are you a minister? and if so what kind of church is it? I find this fascinating and I would like to know more about you.

By: kevangel99

kevangel99 — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 01:50:06 +0000

For this reason will a man leave his father and his mother and be united to his wife and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)