Do You Think Single Christians Should Be Using Christian Dating Sites?
I hit been tempted to ingest them before but ever see that their is something not quite correct most it. Is this meet a secular intent adopting the concealing of christianity! What do you think?
You are right to be wary of them. It is commercial exploitation of those presumed to be naive and ingenuous, something similar to predatory merchandising to the elderly. And you have absolutely no guarantee that others using the sites are not just masquerading as Christians.
I am married so I do not use such things, but I see nothing wrong with Christians setting up means to bring people together for possible future marriage (searching for a mate). Of course such a tool can be used by some for wrong purposes….but that is not the tool itself.
I personally think dating is a fairly bad idea however if one is not looking for a potential mate. But if the goal is to simply provide a means of communication between fellow Christians with such a goal….I think that is a good thing. (Arranged marriages are a thing of the past with most people of course….but even under that scheme there was some form of courting usually involved before marriage).
The purpose of a Christian (or any other type of dating site) is to try to match people together with similar likes, beliefs and goals. I see nothing wrong with using such a site to find people with similar Christian beliefs.
My two daughters both meet their husbands through a Christian dating site. The fun part is that after they had corresponded with the two guys for a while, they decided to have a double date together. During the date, they each discovered that they like the OTHER sister’s date better. So they swapped for a second date, and they married the guys from the second date. That was five years and three grandchildren ago.
God used the site as a tool to get the two couples together, but he did it in a different way that the site though it should have been done.
Obviously, there are stories of those who have found their soulmate online. But to be quite frank, I do not believe a Christian should be dating to find their mate. It takes fellowship and prayer to find the right mate. Actually, finding should be the Lord’s work, not ours. All we have to do is be submitted to His will and going about our Father’s business. GOd will bring the right mate or friends into our lives as we are doing His will. “Christian dating” is a western concept, not in GOd’s best interest.
P.S. My husband and I never dated. We met at a conference, talked for a few months and saw each other a few times, prayed about it and sought confirmation, received confirmation from 3 witnesses, and 6 months later got married. Our first kiss was amazing – it was at the altar!
I would suggest that you check into the history of the site you are considering using. There are many of these sites that abuse Christianity for ungodly reasons.
Find the one that actually does what it says it will do and for the right reasons and you should do just fine.
Good luck and God bless!
I think it’s NOT a camouflage, it simply called a Christian site because it is Christian people who use it. I think it’s good of people want to find like minded people in their similar religion and morals/values etc or of you simply want a Christian partner or even a wife.
Instead of asking us why not pray about it. Not everything that is right for you is right for me. God has us all on our own path which leads to Him. If God gives you peace about using the site then it is His intention for you. Remember not all who claim to be Christians are so after you meet some one take time to see their works before you date seriously or get married.
It is a secular idea adopting the camouflage of christianity. “And be not conformed to this world but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind that ye may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Romans 12:2
I over think things sometimes, but I think that a lot of creeps go on there to get a “good girl/guy” because they think if they are on a Christian dating service, they’ve got to be good. Holy crap…there’s probably a sh!tload of ex cons and rapists on there, seriously.
I don’t personally think there is anything wrong with it at all. The Lord uses it, a friend of mine found his wife through it, and they now have two children
Can the Lord not lead and provide? Is His hand shortened?
Or is it that you do not really trust Him and His will?
Surely learning to walk with Him will bring your answers?
It is a dating site preying on Christians who are gullible enough to believe “Christian” sites are different.
Hardcore christians should only be using Christian dating sites. If not you are just trying to convert a non-believer.
If their religious beliefs are important to them why not let them find people with similar beliefs.
If it helps them meet people and bring more love into their life, then sure.
how exacly is this different form a normal one
oh yeah your all idiots
@ Chris: “The Lord uses it” What the heck are you talking about?